Summer Love?

Summer is halfway over and summer love is probably far from over.
Except for some people.

Summer is the perfect time to fall in love. No pressure, no stress, no worries, no rushing, it just goes with the flow and you just go along with it.

Its hard to resist love and attraction in the summer for the sake of clothing: short shorts, guys with no shirts, barely-there bikinis and swim trunks, and glowing, luscious tans.
Summer basically screams SEX.

Summer flings are normally what goes on with most couples. Since there's no stress in the summer, people rush relationships. They go a little too fast. First they meet, talk, flirt, hook-up, an before you know it? They break up or stop talking.

Aka, a summer fling.

Love in the summer is like candy. It's popular, tastes good, and is addicting. You get a taste of love and you keep coming back for more. Almost like that chocolate bar. You have 1 little piece, saying to yourself "only one small piece" and by the next five minutes, you eat the whole thing.

With it being in the middle of July, most summer flings have hit their peaks. The couples have gotten to know each other and started to go out. The breakup part isn't exactly close, but its definitely on the way.

But...with all this said...
What about the people who don't have summer love?
Well here is my advice, plain and simple.

Summer love, most of the time, doesn't last.
If you want a true relationship, find love in the fall.
Don't rush anything.
Be satisfied that you're single. Your not tied down, you can enjoy flirting, and keep having fun.

So...the final quesion is...

Summer love-Take the risk, or leave it?

Break Up-Make- Up (The B-M)

Based on friends and my experience with relationships in general, it seems that many long-term couples go through the "break-up, make-up" phases.
These could go for one week; they'd B-M
Or they could go on for a year; they'd B-M

What defines a couples love is IF they make-up after a break-up...

It normally takes a couple to realize after a break-up that they miss each other way too much to live without each other. That's when they make-up.

How exactly does a couple 'break-up'?

Multiple reasons:
-Differences
-Religion
-Cheating
-Bad Habits
-Loss of love

Now you may think the last one is absurd. But trust me, it isn't.

I know that people fall out of love because my parents did. That is why I was 7 years old with divorced parents. People fall out of love for no reason, however there could be a reason, but it had to be crucial.

Now, whats the difference between a fight and a break-up?

A fight is just when a couple has a slight argue that turns into..well a fight. They'll ignore each other, avoid each other, and stop talking to each other for a period of time.

Normally, with a couple, fights only last a day, maybe less, depending on the seriousness of the argument.

Now a break-up is a completely different story. All ties are cut. The couple doesn't initiate contact with the other person because they want to get over them right? True. Its a lot easier to get over someone when you don't see them or talk to them.

Break-Ups tend to be...well...very heartbreaking. Mostly for the girl, but don't get me wrong, the guy feels pain too....lets hops he does at least.

Then people ask me this question: How many B-M's should a relationship have?

Well, i only have one answer to that. Depends on the relationship HA!

Let's say...
A couple has been together for years.
They B-M all those years.
My say?
Its just how they are. If they didnt love each other, they wouldn't have made-up.

Now if a couple had mulitple B-M's in a week, I'd say break it off, its not worth it.

So the final question is...


How do you know when a breakup could be a potential "break up" if you make-up afterwards?

The Rebounder

Normally after a relationship is over, people look for support and comfort.

Maybe that comes from the huge carton of chocolate double chunk brownie ice cream in your freezer.

Or possibly from a good metal song that blares on your eyes that screams FUCK YOU and GO TO HELL.

But for most people, it includes a special someone.

That someone is formly known as the "rebounder"

Now you may wonder, what is a rebounder?

A rebounder is a person who is a last resort or escape for a lost, broken heart from the fact that they have just been dumped or rejected.

Normally, a rebounder is a girl...but not necessarily.

As many people, I'm guilty of having a rebounder.

And I have BEEN the rebounder.

Thing is, rebounders ALWAYS get hurt as well. They find themselves thinking that this is a real relationship. No. It's just a fake way for the "player" to feel less pain and feel affection because of the fact that he or she just got dumped or rejected.


I just had to add the "because they got dumped or rejected" part.


Thing is, we all fell guilty when we tell our "rebounder" that it wasn't real. Yeah, you go out, have fun, maybe foul around a little, text, flirt, then leave them wondering....

what the hell was that???






Then the question off all this is.

Why do we use people (rebounders) to heal our own wounds from the past which is semi our fault???